It is easy to get caught up in unhelpful comparison-itus (especially the overachievers and perfectionists amongst us). It involves comparing and contrasting your inner with other people's outer selves - using their successes and accomplishments as a barometer of your own.

It was Theodore Roosevelt who wisely said '𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗲𝗳 𝗼𝗳 𝗷𝗼𝘆'.

1. Comparing yourself to others can be valuable if the reflection is constructive and action-orientated.It is most likely an energy vacuum if it's useless rumination.

2. Internal validation is an inside job. Be aware when you are seeking other people’s opinions of you to validate your self-worth.

3. Your opinion of yourself isn't an honest evaluation of who you are and often we reserve the harshest judgement on ourselves. Seek feedback to understand how other people see and experience you.

4. Be aware of your thinking and don't let it play the lead role from behind the scenes.Reflect on how it affects your behaviour and actions. Then you can start to address it.

5. Don’t get stuck on the hamster wheel of negative self-talk. Change the questions you ask yourself and it will change your experience. What do I want to celebrate about myself? What is ONE thing I could improve on tomorrow to become more impactful?

Where are you stuck down a rabbit hole with unhelpful thinking?