We are the CEO of our thoughts. Yet, our inner critic is like a terrible roommate, always nagging, criticising, and ever-evolving. It makes us believe that when we achieve the next big milestone, we will feel enough. But there is always the next goal and all too often we compare ourselves with others (our inner vs their outer), which can make us feel even worse. Nobody likes tyranny and yet we can easily be a tyrant to ourselves.

Learnings on self-doubt

𝟭. 𝗠𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗱𝗼𝘂𝗯𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝘂𝗺𝗮𝗻.

𝟮. 𝗢𝗯𝘀𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁𝘀, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺.

𝟯. 𝗥𝗲𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝗰𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗱𝘃𝗼𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗲 - the one that rallies behind you.You are in choice with which voice you tune into.

𝟰. 𝗕𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝗿𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝘂𝗻𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵𝘆 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘀𝗼𝗻 - constructive anguish vs uselessrumination.

𝟱. 𝗖𝗲𝗹𝗲𝗯𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗶-𝘄𝗶𝗻𝘀 - the markers on your ascent.Validation is an inside job.

𝟲. 𝗤𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝗰𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝗶𝘁. Don’t seek to validate it.Changing the questions you ask yourself will change your experience.

𝟳. 𝗔 𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗼𝗿 𝗻𝗲𝗴𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗯𝗲 𝗮 𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝘁. Change your thoughts, changeyour experience.

Byron Katie offers some powerful questions:

How do I react and what happens when I believe my thoughts?

Who or what would I be without that thought?